10 Truths to Learn from Tough Times
#1. It’s okay to have bad days.
Every day may not feel overwhelmingly good, but there’s something good in every day (even if the only good thing is that you got out of bed and ate breakfast, you’re still doing well!). And, every day - even the hardest of days - brings opportunity to learn, do better and improve, lean on God and spotlight where we’ve been going astray. It’s all about finding that silver lining of opportunity and pressing forward in faith, even when all that you see by sight feels hopeless.
#2. Change is constant, and not everything is meant to stay in your life.
Change is scary, and many of us are perpetually afraid of it. We fear that if we let go of a relationship or situation that we’re shunning that it ever was important to us; and we’re opening ourselves up into the unknown. But just because something in your life is let go doesn’t deny the power that it once had. And just because we’ve committed a lot of time, resources or effort into something doesn’t mean that we should cling to it when it no longer serves a healthy role in our lives.
#3. Wrong decisions don’t always make it to the autobiography, but they do make necessary lessons.
Some of the biggest things that you’ll learn will be from your mistakes. We all make mistakes, constantly. We are all imperfect and flawed by our human design, and mistakes are going to happen. Let go of your fear of being wrong and embrace God’s guiding hand. He’ll show you the way, how to learn from your mistakes and how to press forward.
#4. Walking away from negative influences isn’t always selfish. Sometimes, it’s necessary.
You need to respect yourself enough to not allow yourself to be tethered to toxic relationships, bad jobs and past situations that are no longer healthy. You are only defined by those negative influences so long as you give yourself permission to be defined by them.
#5. Happiness can’t be outsourced to other people.
When you stop relying on others to be the missing piece to your puzzle, an amazing transformation takes place. You start realising that you were never incomplete at all and that everything you need, you’ve always had within you for God is within you, around you and above you. And, as you grow through your seasons, you’ll learn that happiness isn’t even the most important things. Some of the best seasons of life can be filled with trials, tribulations and complex emotions, and when we learn not to be ruled by chasing fleeting emotions, we start to achieve true contentment.
#6. Involving yourself in drama won’t get you anywhere.
Petty fights, cattiness, he-said-she-said, people who just absolutely refuse to stop being horrid… breathe, and step away. It’s a waste of your energy. It’s not your job to change people, nor can you force people to change if they’re not in a place where they’re open and ready to receive your kindness. Be kind anyway, and step away. It’s not in your hands.
#7. You can make a difference.
We tend to view “making a difference” as being some huge, grand gesture of world-changing influence, but it can be as small as making a stranger who’s having a rough day smile while they wait for the bus. You won’t always feel like you’re making a difference, even when you’re really trying – but that doesn’t mean that you aren’t.
A Prayer for Life Lessons
“God, please guide me to make good, sound decisions as I walk through every season of my life, knowing that Christ is always with me and through Jesus’ blood, your mercy will always fall on me as I learn from my mistakes.
I know that I won’t always get it right and I know that I’m flawed by design, but I give my commitment to you that I’ll walk with You, be guided by You and surrender my need to try to control my life to You. I know that my ‘master plan’ has nothing on what You, God, see planned for my life and I trust that all the lessons you’ll provide for me will see me in good stead.
I’m so grateful for all that I’ve learned and all that I’m yet to learn, because I know you’re moulding me into who I need to be.
Thank you God.
In Jesus mighty name, Amen.”
#8. Progress, success and momentum takes effort.
Hard work and determination will pay off in spades. Nothing will be handed to you and the blessings are always preceded by a determined effort from you.
#9. It’s up to you to make room in your life for the things that you love.
This is an effort, and a conscious one at that. If it’s important to you, then it’s important enough to make dedicated time for, no matter how busy that day-to-day life can get.
#10. It’s necessary to learn how to distinguish the best way through a roadblock or obstacle.
Have you ever tried to move past a trial or obstacle in life, but no matter what you do…. it feels like it just won’t budge and you’re stuck? There’s no one-size-fits-all way to move past life’s problems, as we learn. Some roadblocks can be moved past, others need to be moved through. The more you walk with God, the more he’ll show you how to win every battle - because the battle is already won, you just need to know the best way forward.
Verses to cling to in tough times
I am free to be bold. (Ephesians 3:12)
I am a conqueror. (Romans 8:37)
I do not struggle in vain. (Hebrews 10:32-36)
I am supported. (Hebrews 13:6)
I am enough. (Ephesians 2:10)
I am capable. (Philippians 4:13)
I am in the process. (Philippians 1:6)
I rely on God’s strength. (Psalm 73:26)
I am not alone. (Isaiah 43:2)